The pain and austerity I felt,
is no longer left.
The calm and peace I longed,
is now all my own
What she did, made me think
it is good and I was fooled
No hate what so ever,
my heart still wants her forever.
Its not what I thought would happen
now it has I feel happy and content.
Still, things I need to know,
things I need to say, unfinished
The reason I need to know,
could be whatsover no one knows.
Why it happened is a mystery
now I am free from all the misery.
I would have never let her go,
but she wanted this, how can I say a NO.
My respect for her grows,
her life fills with happiness
and it just flows.
Things unsaid,
I call it a finish.
Still she and me will be unfinished.
Friday, October 8, 2010
Wednesday, October 6, 2010
Live In Relationships.
In the 20th century a man and a woman were supposed to live together only after being tied in the knots of matrimony. But the youth in 21st century is wayward when it comes to relationships.
The Supreme Court’s verdict says that live-in relationship between adults i.e. living with one another without marriage is not illegal and cannot be defined as “criminal offence”. The very idea of living with someone sounds very interesting and to live without any commitment and responsibility sounds even better. But are the society and the youth itself ready to accept this fact.
For most of the people live in relationship is a vile concept that defies the sanctity of the marriage. More than 60% of the youth in India feels to have a live in relationship is wrong both morally and legally. They feel the lack of responsibility from their side and so from their partner’s side. The constant fear of separation and insecurity rules the relationship as per most of the people. The society plays an important role, more than the couple living together. The live- in relationships come under the scrutiny of the moral brigade not leaving many options with the couple living together.
On the other side, to live with someone without getting married is a marital (live-in) bliss. Youth feels that they share a “cool” relationship. The guy take cares of the grocery bills, the girl take cares for the household stuff. Their working schedules are in perfect coherence with each other. So that is another advantage. The youth really doesn’t have any qualms about living together with someone. They are adults and have taken decisions to be together with their own consent. The live-in relationship is tagged as “happily unmarried”. The only downside to this relationship is that the parents don’t know and they won’t approve of it. And the relationship is hidden from the outer world.
One can live with their live-in partner without any tensions and responsibility. They get to enjoy the company of their loved one. Over that they also are free and independent. Personally they feel that they don’t need a tag for their relationship and are happy to continue like this. Some say that they will get married, but right now they are giving this relationship a try. Their perspective is viable.
As everything has its pros and cons, so does this one. To live in a relationship without any commitment might leave to separation instantly. There is no obligation on either the girl or the guy to stay with their live- in partner. Generally there is no support from either the guy’s side or from the girl’s. The traditional families do not give an eye to this kind of a relationship. The orthodox society doesn’t approve the relationship. A lack of commitment in the real sense and a dangerous level of liberty loom over the relationship to topple it over anytime.
For most of the youngsters the live in relationship is a matter of convenience and testing the water before taking a plunge into a “stable” marriage relationship.
Despite all the controversies the verdict by the apex court has a positive impact on the youngsters. And now it is somewhat believed that there is nothing moral/immoral about live-in relationships.
The masses still agree to disagree on the issue. It is up to the person and the live-in partner to introspect and go ahead with their “blissful” relationship.
The bottom line is that India is not a fertile ground for live –in relations to grow. As long as the age old ethics prevail and hold the ground.
The Supreme Court’s verdict says that live-in relationship between adults i.e. living with one another without marriage is not illegal and cannot be defined as “criminal offence”. The very idea of living with someone sounds very interesting and to live without any commitment and responsibility sounds even better. But are the society and the youth itself ready to accept this fact.
For most of the people live in relationship is a vile concept that defies the sanctity of the marriage. More than 60% of the youth in India feels to have a live in relationship is wrong both morally and legally. They feel the lack of responsibility from their side and so from their partner’s side. The constant fear of separation and insecurity rules the relationship as per most of the people. The society plays an important role, more than the couple living together. The live- in relationships come under the scrutiny of the moral brigade not leaving many options with the couple living together.
On the other side, to live with someone without getting married is a marital (live-in) bliss. Youth feels that they share a “cool” relationship. The guy take cares of the grocery bills, the girl take cares for the household stuff. Their working schedules are in perfect coherence with each other. So that is another advantage. The youth really doesn’t have any qualms about living together with someone. They are adults and have taken decisions to be together with their own consent. The live-in relationship is tagged as “happily unmarried”. The only downside to this relationship is that the parents don’t know and they won’t approve of it. And the relationship is hidden from the outer world.
One can live with their live-in partner without any tensions and responsibility. They get to enjoy the company of their loved one. Over that they also are free and independent. Personally they feel that they don’t need a tag for their relationship and are happy to continue like this. Some say that they will get married, but right now they are giving this relationship a try. Their perspective is viable.
As everything has its pros and cons, so does this one. To live in a relationship without any commitment might leave to separation instantly. There is no obligation on either the girl or the guy to stay with their live- in partner. Generally there is no support from either the guy’s side or from the girl’s. The traditional families do not give an eye to this kind of a relationship. The orthodox society doesn’t approve the relationship. A lack of commitment in the real sense and a dangerous level of liberty loom over the relationship to topple it over anytime.
For most of the youngsters the live in relationship is a matter of convenience and testing the water before taking a plunge into a “stable” marriage relationship.
Despite all the controversies the verdict by the apex court has a positive impact on the youngsters. And now it is somewhat believed that there is nothing moral/immoral about live-in relationships.
The masses still agree to disagree on the issue. It is up to the person and the live-in partner to introspect and go ahead with their “blissful” relationship.
The bottom line is that India is not a fertile ground for live –in relations to grow. As long as the age old ethics prevail and hold the ground.
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